Our Naughty Bucket List: What We’ve Tried & What’s Inside Our Private Box
An OpenMity Couple Diary
After 18 years together, we have learned that keeping the spark alive is less about grand plans—and more about staying curious, talking honestly and keeping our favorite ideas close at hand.
Finding exciting ideas is easy. Actually remembering them—and trying them—is another story.
A bucket list is much more fun when it doesn't remain just a list. We turned ours into real experiences—and created a private place to keep everything that helps us make them happen.
Today, I'm opening our boxes, revealing a few of our favorite bucket list checkmarks, and showing you what we actually keep inside. 😊
Why We Have Three Private Boxes
Yes, three. Apparently, one was not enough for us. :D
Our shared adventure box
Our largest XXL lockable wooden box sits on the windowsill. From the outside, it looks like an elegant piece of bedroom storage. Inside, however, is a rather different story.
Our bedside boxes
We each have a small lockable box for the things we reach for most often—no searching through drawers or interrupting the mood.
The large box is where ideas, games and “maybe tonight?” possibilities live together. Inside, we keep our Box of Burning Desires game, a printed Yes, No, Maybe List, special lingerie, my sexiest stockings, a few toys, massage products and date-night accessories.
What Is Inside Our Box?
These are a few of the favorites that have earned a permanent place in our collection.
Weekend getaway favorite
A vibrating toy for panties
The anticipation is half the fun—especially when one partner controls the vibrations and the other never knows exactly when they will begin. An ordinary dinner or walk becomes a private little game only we understand.
For both of us
A vibrating anal plug
We take our time, use plenty of suitable lubricant and choose toys with a proper flared base.
A new kind of pleasure
A P-spot massager
Exploring prostate massage together opened the door to completely different sensations for him. Start gently, communicate, and allow yourselves to laugh if the first attempt is not perfectly smooth.
Small but mighty
My little Womanizer
Small, discreet and very effective - this is one of those toys that does not need much explanation. It fits easily inside my bedside box and is always within reach when I want it.
The Private Box of Couples Who Never Stop Exploring
Some couples wait for spontaneity. Others give spontaneity a little help.
For us, keeping our games, printed bucket list, favorite toys, massage products and accessories together makes it easier to turn an idea into an actual experience. When the mood strikes, everything is already there.
The box does not create intimacy on its own, of course. But it removes one surprisingly common obstacle: the gap between saying, “We should try that sometime,” and actually trying it.
Some of Our Favorite Sex Bucket List Ticks
Confidence + power play
Face-sitting
This is a huge turn-on for both of us. Add dirty talk, and he becomes visibly eager while I feel more confident, desired and in control. Agree on signals so both partners can communicate comfortably throughout. (activity card from our Box of Burning Desires game)
A playful Femdom note
Breast and nipple play
When I am on top and in control, he can focus all his attention on my breasts and nipples. It needs no complicated preparation, yet the change in energy can make a familiar moment feel completely different. (activity example from FemDom cards)
Freedom together
Visiting a nude beach
This one is not necessarily sexual—and that is part of what makes it special. Swimming naked together feels playful, natural and strangely intimate.
Still a work in progress
Dancing together
I would love to call this one of our favorite romantic activities, but my husband is such a bad dancer. :D Usually I dance and he watches. Perhaps that still counts?
Slow, warm foreplay
Taking a bath together
A bath naturally slows everything down. Add soft lighting, a massage product or a playful question, and it becomes a simple but wonderfully intimate date at home. (Activity from our Yes/No/Maybe Foreplay & Sex Checklist)
One of our first toys
A vibrating cock ring
We still love it. It is easy to introduce and gives both partners something extra to enjoy—an approachable experiment for couples curious about bringing a toy into partnered sex. (cock ring activity from Box of Burning Desires Game)
An often-overlooked pleasure zone
Perineum play
He loves it. Gentle touch, massage or vibration in this area can add another layer of sensation and is easy to combine with other activities.
Playfulness wins
Pinball pleasure
The anticipation, teasing and laughter matter as much as the activity. Sometimes the best ticks are not the wildest ones—they are the ones that make you feel playful together again.
What Is Still Waiting on Our List?
Plenty—and I think that is a good thing. A sex bucket list should never feel like a competition or a set of tasks to complete. It is a conversation starter: a way to discover what excites you, what makes you curious and what you would rather leave as a fantasy.
Our Yes, No, Maybe List helps us compare our interests without pressure:
Yes
I would genuinely like to try this.
Maybe
I am curious, but I want to talk about it first.
No
This is not for me—and that boundary is respected.
Sometimes a “maybe” eventually becomes a wonderful “yes.” Sometimes it stays a “maybe” forever. Both are completely fine.
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Build Your Own Private Adventure Box
Start with one beautiful, discreet place for your ideas. Add a conversation starter, a playful game and the details that make the evening feel special.
Large Lockable Wooden Box
Elegant bedroom storage with room for games, lingerie, massage products and favorite toys.
Explore the box →Box of Burning Desires
A couples’ game designed to turn “we should try that” into a playful night together.
Discover the game →Yes, No, Maybe List
Compare interests, discover shared desires and make room for an honest, pressure-free conversation.
See the list →Massage Candles
Turn soft light into warm massage oil and give an at-home date night a more luxurious beginning.
Browse massage candles →Do not let it stay on the list
Create Your Own Bucket List Box
Keep your printed bucket list, couples’ games, favorite toys, massage products, lingerie and accessories together. When the mood strikes, your next adventure is already waiting.
Which ideas are already on your list—and which would you love to try next?
Friendly reminder: Every intimate activity should be mutually wanted and discussed beforehand. Move slowly with unfamiliar toys, use suitable lubricant where needed, follow the manufacturer’s instructions and stop if anything feels painful or uncomfortable.
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