Brat Tamer: So Your Brat Said “Make Me.” Now What?

Oct 2, 2026

If your submissive follows every instruction perfectly, brat taming is a pretty useless skill. The fun starts when they don’t. For a brat tamer, that resistance isn’t necessarily a problem to fix. It is part of the game.

What Is a Brat Tamer?

A brat tamer is a Dominant who enjoys responding to a bratty submissive’s playful resistance. Instead of expecting instant obedience every time, they enjoy the challenge, the pushback, and eventually making the brat give in.

And often, the brat does want to give in. They just don’t want to make it too easy for you.

5 BDSM Positions That Work Especially Well for Brat Taming

Not every brat-taming position needs to completely immobilize the brat. Some work because they give the tamer more control. Others are better because they leave just enough freedom to squirm, resist, and keep causing trouble.

Missionary With Wrists Held Above the Head

A good choice when the bratting is more verbal than physical.

Task Cards for Her promotional graphic showing the missionary position with the woman’s wrists held above her head. — Give Her a Task

She can still smirk, tease, dare you, or give you the classic “what are you going to do about it?” while her wrists are pinned above her head.

That combination makes this position useful for brat taming: plenty of face-to-face interaction, but enough physical control to remind her that talking back and being in charge are two different things.

Face-Down, Hips Raised

This is the firmer option.

If she keeps twisting away, closing her legs, changing position, or turning every instruction into another challenge, putting her face-down with her hips raised removes a lot of that freedom.

It has very clear “you had your fun—now stay there” energy.

Facesitting — When He’s the Brat

Brat taming is not automatically a man-taming-woman dynamic.

Mistress Challenge Cards promotional graphic illustrating facesitting with a woman taking the dominant role. — Give Him a Task

If he is the brat and she is the brat tamer, facesitting works especially well because it flips the control very clearly. He can tease, complain, stall, or act like he has a choice — while she decides where he stays and what he is allowed to do.

It keeps some room for attitude, but not much room for pretending who is in charge.

And for a male brat who enjoys being controlled, that can be exactly the point.

Cowgirl With Her Hands Controlled

This works especially well when the brat keeps ignoring one simple instruction: stay where I put you.

Task Cards for Her promotional graphic showing the cowgirl position with the woman’s hands restrained behind her back. — Choose Her Next Task

She leans forward, braces herself on your chest, changes the angle, or starts riding the way she wants. Holding or restraining her hands behind her back removes the easiest way to take control of the position again.

She can still squirm, complain, tease, or look far too pleased with herself. She just has to do it from the position you chose.

Bent Over the Bed or Counter

This gives the tamer plenty of control without taking all the bratty freedom away.

She can still wiggle, glance back, talk shit, or pretend she has no idea why she is suddenly being held in place. Meanwhile, the tamer can control her hips and posture much more easily—or add a spanking when the provocation was clearly intentional.

It works particularly well when you want the brat to keep the attitude but lose some of the control.

Bonus: Over the Knee

Not technically a sex position, but too perfect for brat play to leave out.

Over the knee works when the brat has been deliberately pushing for a reaction and both of you know exactly where that is heading.

She can still squirm, complain, kick, laugh, or keep mouthing off while the tamer has an easy position for spanking and holding her in place.

For some couples, it is the consequence before sex. For others, getting themselves into this exact situation was the whole point.

How to Tame a Brat

Brat taming is not about crushing the attitude out of someone. Usually, that attitude is the fun part.

The trick is knowing when to push back, when to play along, and when to make them regret that smug little grin.

Make Them Earn the Surrender

A brat may absolutely want to submit. They just do not want to hand it over for free.

Let them resist a little. Let them test you. Then make the surrender feel earned — whether that means a firmer command, holding them in place, a consequence they clearly provoked, or simply refusing to let them take over the moment.

Match the Response to the Mood

Not every bratty comment needs the full Dominant treatment.

Sometimes the hottest response is getting stricter. Sometimes it is teasing them back. Sometimes it is laughing, letting them think they got away with it, and dealing with it later.

A good brat tamer does not only know how to escalate. They know when not to.

The Same Bratty Move Can Go Several Ways

Brat: “Make me.”

You could pin them down and do exactly that.
You could smile and give them another instruction.
You could make them wait until they are the one asking.
Or you could simply say, “Not this time,” and watch how quickly the confidence changes.

The best response is not always the harshest one. It is the one that keeps the game fun for both of you.

When Brat Taming Goes Wrong

When Bratting Nearly Broke the Closet

We are both switches, so our dynamic changes with the mood. One evening we decided to play with me as the brat and my husband as the brat tamer.

Things were already getting flirty while we were getting ready for the night. I was still in my dressing gown when he picked out lingerie for me.

Of course, he chose that set.

He loves it. I think it looks a little too cheap-slutty on me. Which, admittedly, made it very easy to play the brat.

I protested, told him I was not wearing it and eventually gave him some version of:

“Make me wear it.”

Then, for dramatic effect, I slammed the closet door.

A little too dramatically.

The hinge almost came off.

Unfortunately for my brat-taming fantasy, my husband is also the kind of man who takes very good care of our things. The brat disappeared from his priorities almost instantly. The damaged closet door did not.

So instead of being dramatically “made” to wear the lingerie, I spent the next half hour watching him fix the closet.

The evening still ended very hot. I wore the slutty lingerie he likes. We just ended up in a completely different dynamic than the one we had planned.

Lesson learned: bratty resistance can be sexy. Property damage is considerably less seductive.

Common Brat Tamer Mistakes

Getting Genuinely Angry

Playful resistance stops being sexy very quickly when one person is actually pissed off.

A brat saying, “Make me,” is very different from someone pushing your buttons until you are no longer enjoying yourself. If you are genuinely angry, the brat-tamer game has probably ended for the moment.

Turning Every Little Thing Into a Battle

Not every eye roll needs a punishment.

Sometimes the best response to a bratty comment is a look, a laugh, or “Keep going. See what happens.”

If every tiny provocation becomes a full scene, the dynamic can start feeling exhausting instead of fun.

Making Threats You Won’t Follow Through On

Brats notice empty threats very quickly.

If you keep saying, “Do that again and you’ll regret it,” but nothing ever happens, the threat becomes part of the comedy.

Only threaten consequences you would actually enjoy following through on.

Escalating Because You Ran Out of Ideas

Harder is not automatically better.

If spanking did not work, that does not mean the answer is simply harder spanking. Tease back. Change the instruction. Make them wait. Hold them in place. Or let them think they got away with it.

A brat tamer needs more than one button.