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12 days of Sexmas - Christmas challenges for adults
The holiday season is full of traditions — decorating the tree, exchanging gifts, and spending time with family. But for many couples, December can also be busy, stressful, and surprisingly disconnected.
That’s why more couples are discovering 12 Days of Sexmas — a playful and intimate adult Christmas challenge for couples designed to bring romance, connection, and anticipation back into the holidays.
What Is the 12 Days of Sexmas?
The 12 Days of Sexmas is an adult holiday countdown inspired by the traditional 12 Days of Christmas. Instead of material gifts, couples enjoy one romantic or playful task per day over twelve days.
This couples Christmas challenge focuses on:
- Emotional connection
- Physical closeness
- Playfulness and flirtation
- Shared experiences instead of things
Many couples choose to use a printable 12 Days of Sexmas challenge, making it easy to start instantly and enjoy at home.
Sexmas is suitable for a wide range of couples and comfort levels:
- Romantic: compliments, fantasy conversation
- Playful: themed date, lingerie surprise
- Naughty: oral pleasure, new positions
Choose only activities you both want to try. Every idea can be adjusted, replaced or kept as a fantasy.
Printable Adult Christmas Challenge for Couples
12 Days of Sexy Christmas
Inside the printable, you’ll receive:
- 12 romantic and naughty ideas for her
- 12 romantic and naughty ideas for him
- 8 blank cards for personal wishes
- A 12-day Sexmas calendar
- Two printable secret envelopes
- Space to adjust every idea to your preferences
Choose six dates each, secretly prepare your cards and open one surprise together every morning.
What Are Sexmas Tasks Like?
Sexmas is suitable for a wide range of couples and comfort levels.
- Words That Lead to Kisses
Give each other two compliments — one about appearance and one about character.
Take your time, make it sincere, and let your partner really feel those words.
And after each compliment… seal it with a kiss. - The Center of Sexual Energy
Lie down on your back. Your partner has to perform a gentle massage with his moistened fingers and tongue four centimeters below your belly button. That’s where the center of sexual energy is located!
- Boobjob Reinvented
The man licks the woman's breasts while she is on top.
Before he goes down on you, be ready to enjoy his tongue on your breasts. If you're into dominance and submission, this is the right moment to incorporate dirty talk. - Use Your Words - Tonight, share with each other the things that spark your desire the fastest — the little moments, gestures, and touches that make your heart race. Be very descriptive and use examples of your favorite positions.
FAQs
The 12 Days of Sexmas is a couples’ Christmas countdown featuring one romantic, flirty or naughty activity each day for 12 days.
Traditionally, the Twelve Days of Christmas are commonly counted from December 25 through January 5
You can begin on December 13 and count down to Christmas Eve, start on Christmas Day, or choose any 12 dates that fit your holiday plans.
Mmm…assage!
Nothing is more relaxing than a sensual massage. Light some candles, put on
some zen music, and turn up the heat to
set the perfect mood. Then give her a long and relaxing full-body massage.
12 Days of Sexmas Ideas for Couples
- Send a flirty Christmas message during the day.
- Share two compliments and seal each one with a kiss.
- Give each other a candlelit massage.
- Wear something your partner loves.
- Share one fantasy you would enjoy exploring together.
- Try a blindfolded sensory game.
- Take a bath or shower together.
- Recreate your first kiss.
- Let one partner plan the evening.
- Try a position you have not used recently.
- Exchange one romantic and one naughty wish.
- Create your own private Christmas tradition.
Love the idea but don’t want to plan all 12 days yourself? Our printable version includes 24 prepared ideas—12 for her and 12 for him—plus blank cards, a calendar and two printable envelopes.
Here are a few simple ideas:
How to Make Sexmas Part of Your Christmas Tradition
- Print the tasks and place them in envelopes
- Open one task each morning
- Treat it as a shared ritual, not a to-do
list - Adapt tasks if needed — connection matters more than rules
